An Open Letter to All My Haters by Mr. AnderSiN

For those who open this link expecting a tirade of curses knows that this will not be one of those conversations. This will not something that perpetuates hate, and in fact, will offer forgiveness to those who seek to damage and defame me.

Let us first start with the non-stop attacking of both me, the fetish community and as well as my fetish-themed comic, Barbara UNLEASHED. I need you to understand that people who experience a fetish have that tied into their sexuality if not it being their entire sexuality. We no longer live in a day and age where it’s OK to be naïve or uninformed. The consistent idea that women are not consenting to Fetish experiences or Fetish is simply an excuse to abuse humans is falsely and alarmingly untrue. For millions of people who experience a fetish, it is a powerful and beautiful dance experience by consenting partners. I have written a book and now have a comic book series that deals with these intricate feelings and relationships. In fact in the BDSM community consent isn’t an ugly word it is one that is asked for repeatedly and guarded unlike in the mainstream culture that recently had to learn what consent was. It’s about to be 2020, you’re blind hate and miss-understanding of all things Fetish needs to end. You sound no different than a bigot who has a problem with someone who is not straight. I forgive you for all of your misconceptions and hope you find the strength to see past your bias and uninformed opinions.

To those who attack me for what I do for others via being an Indie ADVOCATE or what I do with this site to BENEFIT others, it is time for you to realize the simple truth, what I do here is simply helping other people. There is no magic and there is no skill to it. There is merely a few of us willing to take time away from our own self-interest to help others. We have not received millions of dollars nor are we instantly making thousands upon thousands of dollars on Kickstarter for what we do. We are merely doing something that you could do instead of hating me, helping other people. Every time you decide to hate me for helping other people that is on you. Every time you seek to put a narrative on why I do what I do that is on you. I hope that in 2020 you spend more time helping people trying to bury them to make yourself feel better and know that I forgive you.

To those who want to talk about my sex life, I want you to understand the only people who should be involved with my sex life and having conversations about it would be the people who participate in it. The fact that you are talking about someone else’s sex life is crude especially when you have no context nor real-life information. I can’t stop you from having fantasies about me but I can’t forgive you for being ugly about them publicly.

Finally for those who decide to tear me down via my looks and make comments over how I dress or the teeth I am missing I forgive you. I could sit here and defend myself and tell you the traumatic experiences I’ve had with dentist that has left me terrified and that drill tip parts had to be dug out of my gums, or how my back injury is made me gain weight even at times due to depression but I don’t think you care. Nor will I defend my fashion choices as I don’t dress for anyone but myself. It’s easy to attack those things, I get it, and you know what I don’t mind jokes at my expense.
If those jokes make you feel better about yourself the continue to make them. I can’t take it.

In closing for all those who hoped to damage me or damage my reputation, sought to slow me down or end me, my gift to you is that I am still here. I have not slowed, I have not wavered to my commitment to help my fellow creators nor Stoped standing for the rights of those with fetishes. If anything I’ve dug in harder and stand prouder. I give this to you as a gift because this gift comes with the opportunity for you to grow and see a bigger world beyond your own bias and anger-driven points of view. I forgive you and hope you find the strength to become a better person in the future. None of us are perfect and none of us are always right but we can be kind to others and should be Show respect even when we don’t agree. I hope you find that strength to be a better you and wish you all Happy Holidays and a prosperous 2020.

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